"EXCUSE ME DEAR...DID YOU SAY DRAG HAG?"

Fag hag is a slang term for a woman who associates mostly or exclusively with gay men. The term originated in gay male culture in the United States and was historically an insult, but it can also be used jokingly or in a positive way.^[1] Some women who associate with gay men object to being called fag hags,^[2] while others embrace the term.^[3][4]

Some would say that fag hags are pitied based on the assumption that their fascination with gay men lies in infatuation, which will most likely never be consummated. While this is occasionally true, most fag hag relationships contain no romantic feelings; indeed, some fag hags are lesbian.^{[citation needed]}

This relationship, like most positive relationships, generally evolves out of shared interests and opinions. It offers heterosexual women an opportunity to participate in a gay community where arts, fashion, and literature are embraced and encouraged.^{[citation needed]} The gay community also offers straight women a safe environment to party in relative freedom from unwanted sexual advances.

In interviews with gay men and self-described fag hags the most common theme is safety.^{[citation needed]} A rich relationship can develop between a straight woman and a gay man without sexual tension. The fag hag relationship allows the participants to separate intimacy and sexuality.

The term "fag hag" does not generally carry the same negative connotations that "fag" would. The term is used, without the intent to insult, by both gay men and their female admirers. Some women (such as comedian Margaret Cho and Jessie from the UFN Show podcast) will proudly declare themselves to be fag hags.^{[citation needed]}

Synonyms include fruit fly,^[5] homo honey and fairy godmother.

A fag hag can also mean a female celebrity that is loved by gay men, or the gay community. Judy Garland has been characterized as a fag hag (the origin of the phrase "Friend of Dorothy" referring to gay men, as Dorothy was the character Judy Garland played in The Wizard of Oz). Madonna, Cher and Ana Matronic of Scissor Sisters and Kathy Griffin also qualify as fag hags.

In the movie Fame, Doris is referred to as a fag hag for hanging out with a recently out gay character.

Julia Roberts's character in The Mexican developed a fag hag-type relationship with a gay hit man, Winston Baldry, played by James Gandolfini. Other media examples include the show Will & Grace and the film The Object of My Affection.

The slang terms lesbro, dyke tyke, dyke mike, dyke dork, Dutch boy, dyke dog, or rug doctor have been used occasionally to refer to a male with extensive platonic friendships with lesbians, but this usage is far less common. In the case of lesbians/gay men, the term dyke diva is sometimes used to describe a similar kind of relationship.

A straight man who has a similar affinity with gay men is termed a fag stag, but, again, this usage is rarer.